The Secrets to Making Him Want to Fondle Your Clitoris during Sex
Whether you’re masturbating or with your partner, climax preparation begins when you touch your clitoris.
In this video, Dodson and Ross talked about the best and maybe the only sure way to get that orgasm we want during intercourse: through clitoral stimulation.
Playing with your clitoris is easy when you’re alone, but it could get tricky when you have your partner right there responding to your every move and looking to satisfy his own desires during sex with you.
One of the best ways to climax fast is to prep yourself fully before penetration starts. Have you seen guys touch themselves a few times right before sex? Men do this to check stiffness, but women can do the same prep work unobtrusively to increase sensitivity on the clitoral area.
Did your eyebrows raise at “unobtrusively”?
Communication is supposed to be at the core of any sexual activity and partners shouldn’t be shy about what they do to increase pleasure, but there are some men who are not comfortable seeing their partners masturbate during sex. “I’m here for you, why do you still have to touch yourself?”
If your partner is the type who resents masturbation during sex (even after you explain that touching yourself helps you maintain your mood right before he penetrates), there’s a way to get him to like the idea pro-actively: get him involved!
A specific way to do this is to use his penis instead of your fingers to stimulate your clitoris before you start actual penetration.
Here are two ways to do this:
1. If you’re doing the Missionary, you can fondle his penis with one hand (or both) and angle it so that the tip of the penis is rubbing your clitoris rather than hovering near your vaginal portal. You can set the rhythm (rub the lubricated penis tip on your clitoris a few times), then let go when he ‘gets’ what you want.
You can encourage him to keep going until you’re very near climax (or until you reach climax), and he can penetrate you while you’re in your orgasm throes.
2. In the spoon position, he can rub the upper part of his penis on your slit from behind. Take charge of the action by reaching for him between your legs before he penetrates and resting his penis on your clitoris. If you can’t rub your clit up and down (because of the position), you can simply rub side to side until he gets the idea and moves his body to stimulate you the way you want.
Again, he can take you roughly while you’re having your climax or immediately before you climax.
These are just a few simple techniques to “train your man” to become a better lover (so that you can reach orgasm during sex). If you want to learn more, read my letter here.
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Personally, climax starts even before I touch anywhere near the clitoris. For me, it begins with the kissing. To my understanding, the skin tissues are similar, if not the same, so they’re both extremely sensitive to stimulation. When I’m with a partner that has perfect kissing chemistry, I’m already wired up just from our kissing session.
Spooning is such an excellent position for getting dual stimulation with both insertion as well as clitoral rubbing. Reaching around is comfortable for the man, and you both get to be comfortable and lay down. Also when you face each other laying on your side is good too, because he can reach down and you can bend backwards a bit and angle your body.
I really love when my man touches my thighs and my legs, like when we’re riding in the car or something. It really helps getting the blood flowing through that area, and helps me get turned on. I can’t understand why anyone would resent masturbation though. Who can they be jealous of?
I really like using my man’s penis too. It’s one of those mellowed, relaxed versions of foreplay that we do. We’re kind of half asleep in the bed, sonot really going at it full throttle, but doing that half-conscious rubbing. It’s awesome because my wetness, makes it really warm, and just doing it slowly makes me more wet.
I love the idea of training your man. I wonder if it’s possible to teach an old dog new tricks though. My lover tends to keep wanting to go for the same thing, and I’ve been trying to lead him away from that, but so far no luck. Perhaps some tips for a refresher course could be posted next.
My husband isn’t exactly the most gentle man on the planet. I’ve been trying to get him to be softer on my clit. I think he sometimes thinks of it like his own penis, where more pressure equals more pleasure, but it just mashes me. I think I will have to get him to read this blog post, so he can start to understand the female body better.
I’m really glad you mentioned giving yourself a prep tug like a man does. I think women are sometimes embarrassed to do that or don’t want to look unladylike, so they skip this step. But I say go for it. If it feels good, then do it.
Love the video
What if you don’t orgasm with Masterbation? Forget about partner sex.