The Fastest Way to Climax When You’re on Top

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What exactly is “Grinding Clitoral Stimulation”?

The woman on top position is hands-down the best position that you can do to induce your own climax during penetrative sex. He can see you riding him (visual stimulus, so that he keeps his stiffness), you can control the rhythm and the movement, and you can GRIND.

The last bit is particularly important because it solves a lot of problems for women who want to climax faster in the woman on top position.

1. Grinding lets you rest your legs

The usual up and down position can be challenging for women who aren’t used to doing squats and lunges regularly. In fact, even women who are fit and who exercise daily may have trouble maintaining the woman on top position for a long time.

Gravity works against us when we’re on top. Legs can get wobbly and you can lose your balance. Leg pain can be a huge turn off and can distract you.

Grinding when you’re tired keeps you from losing your sexy mood and it pushes his penis deeper inside your vagina, which works for both of you.

2. Grinding lets you rub your clitoris on his pelvis.

Imagine having him inside you and getting clitoral stimulation simultaneously. Of course, you can always use your fingers to stimulate your clitoris while you’re riding him, but if you can grind to stimulate your clitoris, your hands will be free to tousle his hair, touch your nipples, touch his nipples or bring his face closer to yours for a lingering French kiss.

3. Grinding lets you play with his balls

This can be applied when you’re in the reverse cowgirl position. If his balls are still soft to the touch (they tense up during orgasm), you can rub them on your vaginal lips while you’re in the reverse cowgirl position. Anatomically, the skin on his testicles is made of the same stuff as your labias so it also contains the same amount of nerve ends as your vaginal lips.

Some guys are ticklish down there, which makes touching his balls more fun for you. You can press your thumb on your clitoris and use the rest of your fingers to play with his testicles and your vaginal lips.

How to Grind Your Way To Orgasm

There’s no exact science to grinding, but here’s a technique I use all the time: pretend you’re sexy dancing. Sounds simple enough, eh?

Visualize it: when you move your upper body to the right, your lower body moves to the left; and vice versa. Do this a few more times and play it up by putting your hands up in the air and gyrating… there you go, the sexy grinding that will make both of you climax.

Note: strangely enough, the first time I did this sexy dance/grind, my boyfriend’s eyes widened and he started muttering “think of baseball, man!” over and over. I wonder why.. .. (wink)

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mellojeNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 1:50 pm

This is one of my favorite methods for self satisfaction. It really has to do with the angling, because it thrusts the clitoris outwards, when it’s normally tucked away and hidden by some flesh. Leaning up against cushy pillows is really helpful and helps support your upper body. Plus, this feels more intimate, as if you’re actually laying on your partner.


topoverNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 2:01 pm

It is true that wobbly legs can distract you from being able to get lost in the moment. I think that is the whole point of tantric sex positions, so your body can just completely relax and allow you to feel.


beringerNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 2:05 pm

It is interesting that you mention the similarities of the male and female genitalia because it’s absolutely true. I’ve always theorized that the female clitoris is like a miniature evolution of a penis. Just like the male penis, it also comes with a foreskin or protector that needs to be pushed back to access it.


beringerNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 4:01 pm

I love getting on top and being able to wiggle around. The worst is when a guy places you in the top position because he wants to be serviced and have you do the work. But then, he tries to bounce you up and down, by holding you and moving your body for you. It’s so much more pleasurable when I am allowed to find a comfortable position myself, so I can propel my own body, but still get my grind on too.


chachiNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 5:11 pm

My man loves when I rub myself on him. As much as he loves insertion, there are a few times, where just playing and letting me transform into this banshee really turns him on too. I think he loves seeing me actually taking the reigns and kind of objectifying him. He’s such a sex object!


zimmyNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 6:02 pm

My doctor once told me that I have an inverted vagina, so mine is tilted backwards from the ‘normal’ position. So I love being on top, but preferably in reverse cowgirl. This is where I’ve found the best fit for me and my partner.


spikeNo Gravatar April 8, 2009 at 6:25 pm

I think it’s kind of like giving a lap dance. You wiggle around and just allow yourself to glide over and around him. But obviously, it’s a lot better than a clothed lap dance!


Deloris BeachNo Gravatar June 19, 2009 at 9:44 am

I’m widowed now for four years without any sex. My clitoris has drawn in so far I can hardly see in. What has happened and is there anything I can do to get it back ??


cynthiaNo Gravatar July 5, 2010 at 4:27 am

Grnding is a good position because it permits you to satisfy your man and always reach orgasm faster.


cynthiaNo Gravatar July 5, 2010 at 4:28 am

Grinding is a good position because it permits you to satisfy your man and also reach orgasm faster.


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