Ever seen gorgeous women being fun and flirty with their boyfriends? Of course you have, they are everywhere! TV, Movies, Photography, etc. Read on to drive your guy crazy and leave him wanting more (;
Steps
- Educate yourself. Read books such as the Kama Sutra with him. Study human reproductive anatomy, and familiarize yourself with his sensitive areas. Read up on psychology, especially the more frightening aspects of Freud’s work in psychosexuality. Narrow your definition of perversion to exclude anything that isn’t harmful. Many ‘perversions’ or ‘fetishes’ are taboo because we’re actually afraid of how good it will be to indulge them.
- Nurture your own sex drive. The more excited and aroused you are on your own terms, the more attractive and healthy you will be to your partner. When a man sees a woman take and savor sexual pleasure, he imagines that she would like to share it with him.
- One issue you may run into is that your ‘fantasies’ are not sexual but only romantic. No fairy-tale princess has ever had an orgasm. Try to find fantasies that make you wet, not just wistful.
- Your man may not be your ideal physically. Exercise with him, or buy him things that you find sexy on a man. Exercise can also be a form of foreplay.
- Be assertive. When a woman expresses attraction to a man in explicit physical terms, he feels like more of a man. He will also enjoy not having to initiate sex every time.
- Taking away his control over his stimulation will almost always intensify his satisfaction. A man who is in control of what happens to his body may hold back or hinder himself. If you are in control of his genitals, you may be able to ‘overload’ his nerves or force orgasms of an intensity beyond what he can give himself.
- Do things that make him think about sex even more than usual. When you are both getting ready for work in the morning, slowly apply lotion to your body or breasts and make sure he sees you. Walk around with your shirt open until you leave the house. Subjecting him to visual and emotional stimulation at times when you cannot actually have sex will give him hours to fantasize about you before he gets home. The drawback is that this trick may disrupt his stamina and turn him into a minute man.
- If he is secure enough to submit to prostate stimulation, he will not regret it. This technique accesses nerves deep inside his reproductive system, causing deeper and more exhausting orgasms. A good analogy is that a penile orgasm is like a woman’s ‘hard, sharp’ clitoral orgasm, while stimulating his prostate can cause the equivalent of a woman’s ‘deep, full-body’ vaginal orgasm. Latex-gloved fingers can work if they’re long enough, or you can try a long narrow vibrator. For him the prostate can feel as if it is the ‘root’ of his penis, so accessing it can force his penis to stimulate itself from the inside (and make it feel nearly twice as long, which is a shockingly intense pleasure for a guy). Watch his reactions carefully – if he goes from moaning with pleasure to moaning as if he his afraid, it is because he is experiencing sensations he does not understand. If he seems afraid, give him firm oral stimulation and make him orgasm before he can say anything. Once he is over his uneasiness, he will submit more readily to prostate milking in the future. After a while, you may find that this technique allows you to give him the most pleasure in the least amount of time.
- Role-playing can make him feel safe to express desires that might otherwise embarrass him. While everyone knows the nurse and cop games, more Freudian roles such as teacher or babysitter can undo years of negative conditioning – especially if he was denied sexual contact during puberty.
- If he thinks that you are a ‘pervert’ with a strong sex drive, he will be excited by the prospect of you showing him new things. It also makes him feel secure in himself – men tend to treat women as sex objects because they themselves need to be treated that way.
- Express direct interest in his genitals – not in a cheesy pornographic sense, but simply to express your attraction.
- Regardless of size or shape, many men are insecure about their penises. A lifetime of such pressure can be emotionally castrating. If he has a small penis, research small-penis fetishes and make him glad he is small. If he has a very large penis, he may actually be tired of compliments about it. But don’t be afraid to express any pleasure it causes you. Remember that the average man is 5.5 inches long, but the average woman is only 4.5 inches deep.
- While objectifying women may be harmful, a male is more goal-oriented and can become desperately aroused by a woman who objectifies and lusts after his genitals. For a man who feels insecure, this is a way of giving his manhood back to him.
- He may even enjoy having his penis treated as a separate entity, or being treated as if he is an extension of his penis rather than the other way around. This is why some men have names for their penises.
- Decide what you want to do with your boyfriend. Do you want to have sex? Turn him on? Tease him? Give him a sexy surprise? Once you’ve figured out exactly what you want to do…do it! And follow the steps (:
- If you want to have sex, decide which kind. Passionate, naughty or loving?
- Passionate: Steamy, Sexy and Seductive are the key elements to Passionate Love Making. Lacey Lingerie would really turn your man on if your looking for some Passionate Sex. Kiss him, lick your lips and massaging him would be perfect. Get some oil and rub him down, make him feel like a man.
- Naughty: School Girl Outfits, Sexy Nurse and Controlling Cops are all naughty things (: Men are turned on by roleplaying. Grab a costume and play the part! Let him be your teacher, FEEL his pain and arrest him and tell him he’s a bad boy! THAT would drive him wild. Talk dirty (I want you NOW, feel me, I wanna lick you, etc.) Give him a lapdance or play with yourself as a tease to him.
- Loving: Loving sex is gentle and soft and …loving! Buy some white or pink lacy lingerie or even a simple cami and thong would be good. As look as its sexy, pretty and girly. Tell him you love him, how he makes you feel and how amazing he is to you. Make him feel loved and special. Kiss his cheeks, his nose, his lips. Kiss him all over and love him.
- Lapdances are a good way to tease and arouse a man. Start with a sexy lingerie set like the ones mentioned above. Slowly walk over to your partner and stop every so often to lick your lips or blow a seductive kiss. During a lapdance your supposed to–DANCE! Move your hips in circles on him, kiss him and tell him what you want to do. Slowly strip for him and play with yourself and moan his name. Be a tease and a flirt (:
- Remember that the body is a system. Males are evolved for certain roles, and this makes them more goal-oriented than females. This can be both an advantage and a disadvantage in bed.
- Advantages: Biologically, it is easy to tell if you have satisfied a man because he ejaculates. Being goal-oriented may also make him easy to please emotionally. Most of his nerves are concentrated in a single area (the genitals and prostate), allowing you to manipulate his entire emotional state and ‘take him around the world.’ The tendency to ejaculate very easily can be turned into a game, in which you try to make him orgasm and he tries to resist. You can go soft, to intensify his excitement and make him more sensitive without sending him over the edge. Once you have ‘tenderized’ him and he can no longer resist, hold him down and apply firm and rhythmic stimulation until the pleasure forces him to ejaculate. You will always win this game, and he certainly won’t hold a grudge about it. Very sportsmanlike.
- Disadvantages: He may have difficulty controlling himself or practicing sexual discipline during prolonged intercourse, because he is designed to ejaculate whether he wants to or not. From an evolutionary standpoint there is no such thing as premature ejaculation – an animal that mates quickly will breed at a higher rate. So prolonging his performance may not come naturally. Also, men are commonly portrayed as being easy to please sexually. For either physical or emotional reasons, this is not always the case. And men are not pinball machines – while ejaculation is obvious, that alone doesn’t tell you what the quality of his orgasm was.
- For many women, sex is not completely essential – women are capable of many intense sensual pleasures other than sex. Men do not have as many sources of sensual pleasure, so sex is more of a necessity for them – denying it causes a great number of neuroses and psychological disorders. Even if you can’t always make a Broadway production out of sex, regularly ’servicing’ him like a machine can keep him very content. He knows this, and he may even appreciate you putting it in those terms and letting him know that you understand his design.
- Anatomical studies of the foreskin and glans reveal the presence of estrogen receptors – literally, sites that are designed to absorb female hormones directly from the vagina. This may make vaginal sex more satisfying, or somehow ‘train’ his body to make the two of you a better match.
Tips
- These are techniques which are hardly essential but can bring excellent results.
- The penis and testicles are very delicate organs, and a major vulnerability in male anatomy. Several men a year die due to testicular trauma in which the sheer pain causes cardiac arrest. All men have some concept of this danger. They also worry that women resent them or want to hurt their genitals (this is why there’s so much groin-kicking in movies). If you take a protective attitude towards his genitals and treat your body (particularly your vagina) as a sanctuary for him, he will be happy that you don’t see him as a dangerous brute.
- If it seems that he is about to orgasm because of some technique you are applying, do not change that technique. Provide him with reliable and steady stimulation all the way through his orgasm, then apply more gentle stimulation until he becomes too sensitive and asks you to stop.
- Your vagina has muscles. His penis does not. During intercourse, if you are ready to drive him over the edge, remind him of this. The intimidation of knowing that your genitals are stronger than his may make it extremely satisfying for him to surrender to you. Warn him that you are about to force his orgasm, and then let him feel your strength while you do it.
- Spitting after oral sex can make him feel bad. He doesn’t know why, but here’s the reason. From an evolutionary standpoint, his semen is actually the sole purpose for his existence. His body knows this even if his mind does not. This is why many porn films feature scenes of men desperately ejaculating onto women. He knows, on some level, that his purpose is to provide you with the means to create new life. If a woman rejects his seed, nature tells him he might as well not exist. Learning to swallow or otherwise fetishize his semen can bring him emotional closure at the end of each session.
- Society has tried to make sex patriarchal, and a number of neuroses have resulted from this. Biologically, sex is matriarchal. Women create life, and men support them in that role. On some level, all men feel this. He may find it pratical to take the lead in other matters like finance, because he wants to provide for you. But sex is an area which should be more nurturing and feminine-minded.
- Talk about sex in medical, therapeutic or psychological terms. This way, he’ll know that you understand that sex is a need for him. It will also demonstrate that you know your stuff.
- He may like being ‘used’ as your personal sex toy.
- When you express attraction, he may be afraid that you are a tease and that you don’t actually want to satisfy him. Being clear bout your intentions can allay this fear.
- Try to gently shock him, and make it very clear that you are going to do things to him that he never thought possible. Whatever his fantasies are, try to outdo them so he knows that he won’t be denied anything. If you intend to have sex with him, tell him in no uncertain terms what you would like to do to him. Wait to do this until you are actually about to do it.
- One extremely effective form of foreplay is the ‘mental blowjob’ technique. It consists of subjecting him to prolonged and intense mental imagery of sex, and can be considered a form of sex by itself. You can do this by telling him what you want to do in bed, or by reading something like the Kama Sutra to him. Before starting, it helps to know what you want to say. If you don’t use a book, writing down your own sexy story is a good idea.
- Wait until you have time for serious sex (at least 2-3 hours), and make sure it’s a day when he is likely to be well-rested.
- Set up your bedroom so that you and he can sit comfortably for some time.
- Do not warn him about what you intend to do. Tell him, with a gentle smile, that you’d like to talk about something.
- Bring him into the bedroom. Tell him that you want to try something, and that you need his cooperation and trust. Have him change into loose pajamas or a robe, and have him sit comfortably or lie down. Tell him to close his eyes and just listen. If he asks what’s going on, just smile and ask him to trust you.
- Don’t try to talk like a porn star or ’sound’ sexy. That sounds fake. Talk like a doctor, and use plain technical terms to describe the acts you would like to perform with him. This keeps his mind working literally and keeps your intentions clear. Using technical terms will also help you keep focus and not be embarrassed by what you’re saying.
- Talk slowly and clearly, as if you are in a clinical or therapeutic role. This tone of voice will grant you a certain authority and a maternal aura. It will make him think that you are a little crazy, but in a very good way. Because his reasoning is very literal, speaking to him this way can cause his genitals to feel stimulation even without being touched. This is why phone sex works – hearing explicit descriptions of sex acts forces his brain to create a mental simulation of those acts. What he imagines will also be influenced by his own tastes and fantasies. It’s like he’s watching erotica, except it’s custom erotica that keeps re-writing itself to fit his needs.
- Done properly this is almost a form of brainwashing or sexual bondage game – in effect, you are turning his mind into a second penis and then masturbating it. Very few men have experienced this, and the effect will be like losing his virginity for a second time – this time to a perverted goddess who can control his mind. If you are not careful, this technique may cause him to spontaneously ejaculate.
- The first few times you do this, make him endure the mental stimulation by itself before stimulating his body. Do not let him masturbate or do anything to his physical penis until you are finished speaking. If his hand drifts between his legs, gently pull it away without slowing down. This will keep his mind receptive. Using restraints may help with this.
- After a few sessions, when you are ready to give him both verbal and physical stimulation at the same time, maintain control of his penis. Stroke him with your hand (don’t let him use his own hands), or ride him cowgirl-style.
- If you can find the right position, talk directly to his penis from a distance of a few inches, so he can feel your breath against it. Obviously, this is a good prelude to giving him actual oral sex – but give him time to feel the breath technique on its own.
- You should not apply this technique unless you are in a location where you can readily begin having physical sex. The mental stimulation causes his body to stimulate itself, and one way or another he does need to finish. Also, he will be able to enjoy this technique more if he is wearing a robe or loose pajamas that allow room for his erection while you talk. Understand that this technique will weaken his stamina, so he may not be able to take much physical stimulation afterward.
- Plot against him on his birthday or other special occasions, and spring sexual traps on him when he expects not to have time for sex (try to make time, of course). Sexually predatory women are most men’s greatest dream, and this will reassure him that the two of you have a healthy relationship.
- Try to find out if there is any filmed erotica (video porn) that turns you on. If you find something you like, watch it with him and then do the things you see in the film.
Warnings
- Act like a slut, especially in public. Limit yourself to your partner/boyfriend, and be his personal slut (and your own).
- Don’t overdo the lapdance. Look for videos on YouTube or buy a proper instructional book. These are only suggestions.
- ‘Blue balls’ (painful congestion of the testicles) is rare, but it does happen. If you make him keep his erection for more than an hour, be sure to use a technique that makes him release as much semen as possible to relieve the pressure.
- Some men are intimidated by sex because they feel pressured to be dominant and aggressive. They may not wish to see sex this way – they may see sex as a form of nurturing, or they may think that being dominant makes them selfish. A man may enjoy holding you and watching while you enjoy yourself, because he wants to be a source of pleasure rather than only receiving it.
- In some cultures (Judaism, Islam, and secular America), many males are routinely circumcised shortly after birth. This may decrease sensitivity to the point that orgasm becomes difficult, or there may be scarring or complications that require a different touch. You will probably be able to gauge what he is feeling simply by paying attention to his reactions.
Things You’ll Need
- A Boyfriend/Partner
- Time to experiment with him
- A healthy sex drive of your own, meaning good health and plenty of sleep
- Sexy Lingerie
- Massage oil
- Seductive Food (Strawberries, Chocolate, Cherries, Whipped Cream, etc.)
