Contrary to popular belief, men are not just all about intercourse and penetration. They are also loving creatures who crave – and deserve – a lot of foreplay!
Think about it this way: don’t you just love it if your man spends some time loving you up before the ‘major act’? And with the extended foreplay, aren’t your orgasms more earth-shattering simply because of the sexual delay and tension? Well it’s exactly like this for your boyfriend/husband/lover too! The more pre-play you engage in, the stronger his orgasms… and the more he’ll thank his lucky stars that he has you!
FIVE Foreplay Moves that Will ‘Torture’ Him
Foreplay Tip #1: Make Him Stare… But Not Touch
Treat your man to a little sexual display but deny him the right to satisfy his arousal… at least at the start. For example, you know how glued men can be in front of the TV. Well, why not traipse in front of the TV with all your naked glory? That will get his attention! (Just make sure the curtains are closed for this treat as you may end up giving the neighbors a treat too.)
And don’t stop there. After walking in front of him in your birthday suit, sit down and let him have a REALLY good look at you. If you want, touch yourself a little too. Graze your nipples and make them rock hard. Spread your legs just a little bit. This visual display will set of sexual fireworks in his brain and before you know it, he’ll be sitting there with an erection.
When he approaches you, tell him NO. Tell him to stay EXACTLY where he is. This way, you can torture him some more. By the time, you let him touch you, he’ll be so ready to explode.
Foreplay Tip #2: Create Your Own Steam
Picture this: you and him making love in bed. All of a sudden, you pull off him, lean down and give him a really wet kiss or lick on his lips, and then you blow your warm breath on his lips. Talk about tingling sensations! If you want to be more daring, do this exact same technique… on his penis.
Of course, there are many other areas you can do this lick and blow hot breath technique such as the side of his neck, his taut nipples, his belly button, his ‘behind’, and so on.
You can also be experimental and blow hot and cold air on him. How? Just have a VERY cold drink or a small bowl of ice chips beside you in bed and presto! hot and cold air when you want it.
Foreplay Tip #3: Take the Reins Tonight
When it comes to bed preferences, in general, we women prefer slow seduction. Men, on the other hand, prefer a little roughness from you.
Men are so used to women playing the timid role in bed that it shocks the hell out of them when they encounter a woman that’s a tigress in bed. (Guess why Angelina Jolie figures in many a man’s fantasies?!?)
So tonight, be that tigress in bed. Show him you can be the boss and that he’s nothing but your sex slave. Here’s how…
Let him be the one to go first in bed; pretend your still brushing your teeth or something. When he’s already under the sheets, join him… naked. Before he can say a single word, get on top of him, dry rub your genitals against his, and go for some major lip action. He’ll be rock hard in no time.
Never let go of the reins. Each time he tries to speak shut him up with your lips. If he tries to go down on you, move and go down on him instead. When you both can’t take it anymore, get on top of him and ride him for all his worth.
This is also the perfect time to introduce say, a new position in bed. Something you know he secretly wants to try but has been afraid to ask you. All this will show him who the boss is!
Foreplay Tip #4: Touch Him, not Just ‘It’
I guess we are all a little guilty of being ‘lazy’ and just go to his member every time we want to pleasure our men. True, we don’t hear any complaints if we do this but let’s explore other areas of his body we can pamper, shall we?
For instance, before the heavy petting, kissing and rubbing, treat the back of his neck with a really good massage. Long, hard strokes will relax him. Next move your hands lover and give his back some loving.
After that back rub, push him down the bed and focus on his front. Run your palms all over his body. Put some weight behind it and just when he’s used to this pressure, move up and make lazy, feather-light circles with your palms over his nipples!
The change form hard rubbing to super light taunting will give him a fast hard on, alright. From here, do whatever you want since you already have him thinking about sex. For instance, lick his earlobes with your hot tongue, knead his buttocks and blow your hot breath on his back door, be creative!
You can do more rubbing, pinching and maybe even some light scratching. Just focus on OTHER parts of his body and stay away from his family jewels and sword… at least until he begs you to focus on them.
Foreplay Tip #5: Be a Tease
It can be frustrating, but it can also be darn sexy! I’m talking about the start-stop technique of bringing him just almost over the edge of coming, only to ease down so you can start all over again! Trust me, by the time you do allow him to come, he’ll have the most powerful orgasm ever!
So, what to do?
Engage in heavy foreplay, and get into a position where you can easily stop. In this case, missionary may not be the best ideas because then you’ll have to throw him off and that’s not really romantic.
So go woman-on-top, engage in fellatio, or use your hands to make him deliriously happy. Just when he’s about to pop, back down and focus your attention on other parts of his body. When he relaxes a bit, resume whatever it was you were doing… and then back down again. When you finally relent and make him come, I guarantee he’ll be seeing stars.
Pre-Play Toys to AVOID
Sometimes, we can get too creative and use certain ‘paraphernalia’ as part of foreplay. However, not all items will bring out a positive sexual result from him. Read on to find out which things are probably best left out of the bedroom.
Chocolate syrup. Yes, you’ve read TONS of sexy tips about the use of chocolate syrup but in reality, most men find them simply icky and sticky! It’s ok if they’re used in the bathroom or only sparingly in one area of the body (say, the top of his lollipop) but to douse him with chocolate syrup?!? The ’squeaky’ sounds and the stains on the bed the morning after don’t really excite most men.
Scented candles. Sure, they are romantic but DO NOT over do it! The smell induces many a headaches. Besides, he should be smelling you and not be smelling vanilla-scented wax.
High heels. Sexy? Yes. Dangerous? Also, yes! Be sure to REMOVE them when you guys step in bed. Adult movies may show it’s the ‘hot’ thing to do but in reality, you can injure your man with one of those things and probably in areas where you can do a lot of damage!
