My husband and I have been engaging in what we like to call our zesty sessions for over a decade now. We’ve not been doing it on a continuous, non-stop basis. I mean, we need to stop and eat an occasional, nutritious meal once in awhile. But all in all, our sexual relations are good. Very, very good.
I’d like to share some of the ways that we’ve been able to get around the sexual traps so many of our friends seem to fall into.
First of all, the male mentality that sex is a race to the finish line needs to be abolished. My husband tells me he likes to envision a circle around the outside of my “path to happyland”. He kisses me gently on my lower belly, the insides of my thighs, and he gets dangerously close to my vagina. He teases me, he takes his time. I know that he really loves me because he likes to drive me wild. I’m on fire. Too many men do not take the time with their partners. Shame, shame.
Next, we keep our sex life active by never connecting twice in the same place within one week’s time. We always find new places to hook up. We’ve christened each of the rooms in our home, including the garage. We’ve been in each of our cars, numerous times. We’ve done it in an airplane, once or twice. We even got together in my closet in my old bedroom at my parent’s house. The point is that variety (of locales) is a tasty spice of a healthy sex life.
Nothing about my husband and I is predictable. Even our foreplay is a major event in itself. My husband and I work out together before our sexual workout. Yes, you read that sentence correctly. We go to our room with a home gym and we exercise. Exercising releases my feel-good hormones and I ooze sexuality. My husband oozes sweat, which turns me on even more because of his natural pheromones and testosterone. Usually we hook up on the workout bench.
Be Creative
Next, we always like a challenge. And we thrive on creativity. I get so bored with the same old sexual initiatives. To turn sex into a real game, we like to tie each other’s hands up. Only one at a time, mind you. This is great fun as the one who is bound tries to disrobe the other without the use of his or her hands. We laugh, we play. We make love.
Let me see … what else? Oh! I absolutely abhor my husband’s television program schedule. And so many couples we know have this same problem. The man waits until his shows are over to even entertain the idea of sex. This issue can be a tough one to overcome. I asked my husband, one time, to read to me in bed. He has done this a handful of times and always with great success for our sex life. I love my husband’s deep voice and the mere sound of it excites me to no end.
Finally, I used to love it when my husband held my hand. But after a few years, sometimes I just felt irked. He held my hand too much. I prefer when my husband massages my neck and shoulders, or even when he squeezes my tush. My whole body longs for his touch.
And that’s the way it should be, don’t you think? Sex is good. Sex can be great. With a love like yours, don’t you want it to be great?
