We start this blog with a good rah-rah cheer and I can’t think of a more appropriate word to describe our topic: female orgasm or the big O that we look forward to every time we hit the sheets with a partner. Here we discuss the factors that affect the intensity and even the occurrence of female climax during sex and during masturbation.
Forget all you’ve read about in how-to-make-her-orgasm, men-centered guides, we are here to talk about the issues of women who know that orgasm is possible but can’t because of several limiting factors that affect their climax and their sexuality in general:
- their mindset,
- their partner’s bedroom behavior,
- their own bedroom behavior,
- the hesitation to explore their sexuality and their bodies
- and repressive society-centered notions that keep women from really enjoying sex.
For a woman, not getting off during sex is a major source of relationship tension.
The general idea is that men and women should be able to enjoy sex together, and when something goes wrong, it’s someone’s fault. Is he doing something wrong? Isn’t he a good lover? Is something wrong with her? A few years of this could ruin a good relationship, mostly because the issue isn’t dealt with or because her inability to climax fast enough to keep up with the man is not addressed. Then comes the dreaded line, “We are not sexually compatible; the flame has died.”, which is simply something that people use to justify cheating or a break up.
There may be a lot of factors that contribute to the failure of the relationship, but sexual compatibility (or lack thereof) should be dealt with and taken out of the equation entirely, so the focus will be on the other aspects of the relationship.
I have met women who told me “orgasm during sex is no big deal. It will come when the time is right and the conditions are good”… but to someone who has never had one, or has never found a way to break out of the sexual repression that’s keeping her from cumming, it IS a big deal.
The female Big O is a fun topic, and on this blog at least, you can talk about it freely. Use the comment form to share your opinions or send me a question via the contact form. You can also subscribe to my feed via RSS or email.
