The majority of us women seem to have some sort of physical or mental, or both, block that prevents us from attaining an orgasm through the joy of sexual intercourse. Statistics tell us that approximately 70% of women are unable to reach a full climax without stimulation to our clitorises. Sexual intercourse just will not do it for us so easily.
If you desire to reach your highest sexual level through intercourse with your man, then my desire is to share with you the tidbits of knowledge I have gained over the course of my sexual life. I will tell you about a three-step plan that you and your man can implement to improve your chances of achieving the orgasmic bliss that is rightfully yours.
There is no set deadline for the completion of this plan of action. You could go through the steps in a few days, a few weeks, or a few months. The plan is totally customizable to your own specific needs and desires. The basic idea teaches you to gradually rely less on overt clitoral titillation during penetration. In the end, you will climax when having sex with your lover.
The first phase of increasing your responsiveness to intercourse allows either you or your lover to manually stimulate your clitoris while engaging in sex up through the conclusion of your climax. If the very act of sexual intercourse distracts you from this beautiful end, simply allow your partner statuesque penetration. Let him inside you but ask him not to move. Continue to stimulate your clitoris manually and feel how good the orgasm is while he is inside of you. When you are successful, gradually add the thrusting movements.
The second phase requires that you cease clitoral titillation from Phase I awhile before your orgasm. Stop touching yourself and allow the ‘in and out’ movements from your partner’s erection to help you reach orgasm.
The third phase of heightening your sexual sensitivity through intercourse prompts you to increase the amount of time between the conclusion of clitoral stimulation in Phase II and the beginning of your orgasm.
You move to the next stage in the plan when the amount of previous non-clitoral stimulus was enough to propel you into orgasm.
Developing a heightened sensitivity to sexual intercourse is part physical, part psychological. During the 3-part physical plan, pay attention to what is going through your mind. Relax your mind, so that your body follows. Center on the pleasurable sensations alone.
If it helps you, use visual imagery to picture anything sexy or erotic to you. This can be a potent psychological tool for you to use. The mind-body connection is a very strong connection. Once you have certain fantasies in mind, you can draw upon them in your moment of near-ecstasy as a trigger to orgasm.
Another tip that will help tone your PC muscles is to begin exercising them. The pubococcygeus, or PC muscle, is the muscle that automatically tenses up during orgasm. Slowly work your way up to completing 100 contractions of this muscle two times per day. This muscle is the same muscle that you would squeeze to prevent the flow of pee.
When you work out your PC muscle, blood flows to it, the same way blood pumps to all your muscles when you exercise. With this increased blood flow in your pelvic area, you begin to feel a physical sexual arousal. Working out this muscle increases the blood flood, thus increasing the sexual arousal. Some women believe it is easier to achieve orgasm during intercourse when their PC muscle is toned up.
Another tip: Do not let the mentality that there is only one range of motion in sex restrict you. Try moving side to side, in and out, or even move your hips in circles when your partner is inside of you. A favorite move of mine is moving my clitoris against my lover’s pubic bone in an up-and-down motion while he is inside of me.
It may seem like these suggestions can only be executed when you are on top of your lover. Not so. A woman needs to move her hips so she can maximize the level of sexual excitement she experiences. She can just as easily move her hips when she is on the bottom. Too many women forego a heightened sensitivity to sexual pleasure due to old-fashioned notions of how a “lady” should behave.
It has been proven time and again. Sexually active women achieve orgasm much easier than women who do not engage in sexual intercourse on a regular basis. Sexually active women enjoy their sexuality.
What do you say? Don’t you want to enjoy sex too?
