It seems that the long-drawn debate is over. Yes ladies, according to new research, the g-spot DOES exist.
If you’ve never heard of the g-spot before, it’s a small area that was discovered by Ernst Grafenberg, a German gynecologist who probably really loved to go to work everyday. But from the time Grafenberg discovered this area (1950s) until now, there has been a lot of speculation that this spot doesn’t even exist. As such, a lot of men and women didn’t even bother to venture locating the g-spot let alone exploring the powerful orgasms it promises to bring.
However, as mentioned above, studies now show that the g-spot does in fact exist. This new finding is based on documented MRI scans and biopsies carried out by professionals and it now gives major license to embark on a personal quest for your beloved g-spot.
More Info on the G-Spot…
Women differ a lot from each other. As a result, the diameter of the gspot differ greatly too from one woman to the other. In general though, the g-spot is believed to be anywhere between ¼ of an inch to about a few inches on the front wall of your vagina (somewhere behind your clitoris).
Small though the g-spot may be, it’s believed to be capable of inducing dramatic orgasms! When stimulated and titillated just right, you can easily reach a climax far faster than you would thru clitoral stimulation. Also, women who have been lucky enough to go through a g-spot climax claim that it’s a lot more powerful than any orgasm they have ever felt before.
Before, researchers could not agree if the g-spot was a separate gland or just an ‘accidental collection’ of nerve endings. However, research results show that it’s actually more like a distinct organ very comparable to the prostate gland (the ‘p-spot’) in men.
What are the similarities? Well, just like the p-spot, the g-spot engulfs an area inside females that creates and ejaculates liquid. In males, this slightly alkaline liquid gets excreted with semen and is said to help sperm last longer. For women, although more research is required to prove this, the liquid excreted by the g-spot MAY produce chemicals for the same process – to protect sperm from the acidity of the vagina.
The G-Spot – A Guided Tour
To find your g-spot, follow these tips. Lie on your back and try to relax. Think erotic thoughts, listen to soft music or maybe even read or watch adult entertainment. This is all to put you in the right sexual frame of mind.
Now, you can start to play with yourself by stimulating your clit. This is because the more wet you are the easier the following steps will be. In addition, the g-spot is believed to react like your clitoris. That is, it becomes engorged when stimulated making its location easier.
When you’re properly aroused, insert a finger or two inside you, palm up. Press the tips of your fingers against the middle of your vaginal wall. You can start to look for that slightly puffed up or engorged area mentioned above. Texture-wise, run your tongue over the ceiling of your mouth. That rough, ridge-like surface is said to resemble the texture of the g-spot.
Due to the fact that the area around the gspot is sensitive, you may find that your body instinctively twists and bends and moves to accommodate your fingers, helping you find the spot. Here’s another tip: have this urge to pee? If so then you’re close.
The g-spot is near your bladder so stimulating it may make you feel you need to urinate. However, here’s the golden rule: don’t stop. Continue with what you are doing and the ‘I want to pee’ sensation will naturally stop. In its place, you may start to feel the beginnings of an orgasm.
How to Help Your Man Find Your G-Spot
Knowing how to find your g-spot by yourself equips you to guiding your man better when he takes on this endeavor too. However, this does not mean that he will find the spot right away so do be patient. Remember, the g-spot is mostly unknown territory for men so he needs practice, which is not really a bad thing if you dwell on that thought for a while!
The best way to get started is to engage in foreplay… big time. As mentioned above, the more aroused you are, the wetter you will be and the more puffed up your g-spot will be.
Also, prop your lower back with a small pillow. This will elevate your hips and will make reaching your front vaginal wall easier. Tell him to bend or crook his finger into as if making a ‘come hither’ gesture. And then as you did before, he should insert a finger or more inside, palm up and start to feel for that slightly rough nub inside you.
Once he’s found your g-spot, tell him to gently massage it by making slow, soft circles around it. But tell him to experiment too. For instance, alternate between slow and faster circles, and applying gentle and harsher pressures.
Also, ask him to introduce you to the wonders of g-spot tapping. Using one or both his fingers, ask him to tap your g-spot rhythmically in quick succession. You’ll feel an instant sexual high with this. Why? In general, the most incredible sensations you get from being touched along any part of your body is during those first few precious seconds. Tapping is like resetting those ‘first few precious seconds’ over and over again.
G-Spot Secrets: Position Pleasure
For perfect g-spot stimulation, woman-on-top beats all the rest. This is because in this position, your body and his penis are in perfect natural alignment for g-spot titillation. As you lean a bit forward into him, his penis is angled perfectly to your g-spot. Besides, g-spot or not, woman-on-top gives you a lot of control regarding the depth, speed, gentleness and roughness you need to come.
Another great position is being taken from behind. In this position, your rump is already raised while your lower back tends to curve downwards, putting the g-spot in great alignment again for each thrust he makes as he enters from behind.
You can also try doggie-style lying down instead of being on all fours. This time, when he enters you, squeeze your legs together. This brings your vaginal walls together and this forms a perfect alley for his penis to traverse to hit your g-spot. For his benefit, squeezing your legs together provides more friction for him for each thrust he makes.
Do the above positions mean you need to give up the missionary position if you want a g-spot orgasm? No. However, for great g-spot accuracy try this modified missionary pose.
Lie down and bend your knees, feet flat on the floor/bed. Place a pillow underneath your lower back to elevate your groin. Instead of entering you the ‘normal way’, ask him to sit up and then penetrate. This makes his thrusts go into a somewhat upward angle.
Blended Orgasm 101
Now that you know that the g-spot is not a myth you can now also embark in blended orgasms! This is when you reach your climax via clitoral and g-spot stimulation… simultaneously.
Here is how you do this: engage in heavy foreplay till you are wet and panting. Ask him to go right in with his fingers and arouse your g-spot. When he finds it, tell him to use his thumb (or the fingers on his other hand) to fire up your c-spot. A variation is for him to gently rub your g-spot as his tongue takes good care of your c-spot.
Woman-on-top is also great for blended climaxes. As you ride his pole, guide it to hit your g-spot. When you’ve succeeded in doing this, reach down and pleasure yourself with your fingers. Better yet, tell him to reach forward and play with your clit. Another variation? Let his penis excite your g-spot, reach down to arouse your c-spot and ask him to reach up and fondle your nipples!
Going on all fours is also great for combi-climaxes. As he hits and stimulates your g-spot with his penis, reach down and fondle your clitoris. And then, grab his hands and pull them towards your breast. He’ll know what to do.
How to Elevate the Pleasures You Get from Your G-Spot
Although you may already get delirious from pleasure from your gspot orgasms, here’s more good news for you: practice makes perfect! That’s right; the more you become adept at gspot stimulation, the more potent your climaxes will be.
Still, there are a few more things you can try to bring your g-spot pleasure to volcanic proportions: Kegel exercises.
A Kegel exercise, named after gynecologist Arnold Kegel, is a routine that aims to strengthen and tone the muscles of your pelvic floor. To do this, you need to tighten and relax your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). You are probably already doing this at one point or another. For instance, whenever you try to discontinue the flow of pee, what you’re using are your PC muscles.
Kegel exercises fortify your vaginal muscles, enabling you to perform a ‘tighter grip’ during sexual intercourse, which in turn enhances gspot pleasure.
To perform a Kegel exercise, squeeze your PC muscles and hold them for about 5 seconds before you release them. Do this for 8-12 reps, for 1-3 sets a day.
Remember that finding and stimulating your g-spot does not occur overnight. It’s something that you and your lover need to explore so just enjoy the journey if attempts fail at the start.
In addition, the above tips are more like ‘best practices’ and does not necessarily mean that they are the only ways you can discover and titillate your g-spot. In fact, just browsing in a few forums online revealed the following ‘accidental’ g-spot location discoveries.
- One guy was performing oral sex and his lady love kept lifting her hips higher and higher. Caught in the heat of the moment, he became adventurous and ’stuck a finger’ inside her, palm up. Bingo! he found her g-spot just like that.
- One time, this lady was doing reverse woman-on-top (she was facing his feet instead of his head) and just like that, her grinding put her g-spot and his penis in perfect alignment and she saw stars in just a few seconds of stimulation.
- Another woman experienced a combi-orgasm without even knowing anything about blended orgasms! She was riding her man and then he just reached down and started fondling her clitoris. Just when she felt the beginnings of a clitoral orgasm, she started to grind against his pelvic bone in a circular motion (rather than going up and down). Just like that, his penis ‘found’ her gspot and she was exploding inside and outside in no time.
So be guided by the tips above, but in the end, just be sure you and your lover enjoy every moment.
