You probably don’t reach a climax each and every single time you make love with your man. That’s ok, most women never do anyway. However, when you do orgasm, do you prefer a clitoral (C-spot) orgasm or a Grafenberg spot (g-spot) orgasm?
I say… why choose when you can have both?
The Heady C-Spot and G-Spot Orgasm Cocktail
As I insinuated above, a blended orgasm is when you are able to climax via c-spot and g-spot stimulation, simultaneously. And if you’ve ever had any of these orgasms at all, then you KNOW how excruciatingly pleasurable a Blended O can be!
So does this mean that you just lie down and start stimulating both? Well, not exactly. Remember that you are about to titillate two very different parts of your anatomy, with each one requiring different ‘techniques’. Also, in general, women tend to reach an orgasm right away via g-spot stimulation so this may mean you need to spend some time arousing your c-spot first. So the best thing for you to do is to engage in some sexual exploration first.
Blended Orgasms: The Self-Pleasuring Kind
Before you inform your boyfriend/husband/lover of your new bedroom project, ensure that you have tried to reach and attained a blended orgasm on your own first. This way, the ‘trial and error’ part is all dealt with already. Besides, it’s your body and your orgasms so it’s best if you take responsibility in figuring out what really makes you tic sexually.
Here’s what you should do: find a relaxing place where you know you won’t be disturbed for some time. You need the serenity and space as you explore your body. Also, I’m mentioning this now, don’t be frustrated of nothing comes out of your first attempt. This is normal and the great thing about it is that practice makes perfect!
Lie down on your back and arouse yourself either by thinking naughty thoughts, reading an erotic book, or watching adult movies. When you feel yourself excited and wet, reach down and play with your c-spot. If you need a vibrator to get things going, so be it.
Make a mental note of what things really turn you on. What pressure? What movement? At what speed? All this is something you can relay to your lover later so that he knows how to perfectly titillate your clit.
Another reason you should start with c-spot foreplay is so that your g-spot becomes slightly engorged, making detection a lot easier.
Just when you’re really getting excited, stop c-spot stimulation and insert a finger inside and feel around the front wall of your vagina. Think of your navel at the 12 o’clock position. Somewhere between 11 and 1 o’clock is your g-spot.
Once you find the g-spot, keep at it till you feel the beginnings of an orgasm. Now, with your thumb (or using your other hand) reach and stimulate your c-spot. Preapre to see and feel fireworks!
Blended Orgasms: The Intercourse Kind
Knowing what you know now from your self-pleasuring sessions, it will be easier to guide your lover into helping you reach a blended orgasm.
Start with some heavy foreplay to pump blood to your clit and g-spot so that they get slightly puffed up. When you can’t take it anymore, ask your lover to fondle you down there. (I don’t know about you but my personal favorite is being licked down there.)
When you feel your muscles tensing and feel your ears ringing, ask him to stop and to penetrate you (I’m sure he won’t mind). Lift your hips slightly so that his penis is dead on your g-spot. As he thrusts and rubs against your sweet internal nub, it won’t take you long to climax so ask him (demand if you have to!) to stimulate your clit again. (Of course, you can also just reach down and do that yourself but I always prefer it if he does it.)
You can also try doggie-style because this position naturally lifts your romp while simultaneously arching your back. This way, his penis is again perfectly angled to hit your g-spot. Further, with him situated behind you, it’s a lot easier to get to your clitoris so that you (or him) can titillate it in perfect tandem with his penis rubbing against your g-spot.
You can also try the woman-on-top position. As you ride his pole, go in a circular motion instead of going up and down. See when his penis hits your g-spot and when that occurs, keep at it! Now simply reach down (or ask him to reach forward) and play with your engorged clitoris.
You can do reverse woman-on-top where you face his feet but I prefer the traditional woman on top, you know why? My man seriously gets stimulated when he sees me all aroused and playing with my c-spot right in front of him!
