If you’re a woman you might be having more trouble having an orgasm than your male partner, but there are things you can do to change that, in most cases. One of the best ways to work toward that is to understand the female orgasm, and to know that you can have an orgasm on your own, without shame. If you were given messages about masturbation and about sex when you were younger and told that it was bad, dirty, and shameful, that might be a reason why you’re having trouble having orgasms. Most women have their first orgasms on their own, and once you’re comfortable with what your body needs in order to achieve ‘the Big O,’ you’ll be more at ease sharing that information with someone else.
Also understand that everyone’s orgasm is unique. No two women are quite the same, and no two orgasms will be quite the same for any woman. Some will be very intense, others will be less so. There’s nothing wrong with either one of them, and nothing wrong with the woman. Most women are very uptight about their sexual life and their orgasms, and that can stop them from having them and from experiencing them as thoroughly as possible. Be open with yourself and your partner, and you’ll have a better opportunity to experience truly great orgasms.
