Dear Jessica,
My ex-boyfriend did not tell me directly, but I felt he was not completely at ease with my squirting. Even after viewing several pornographic videos involving women who squirt, he would still get wild-eyed when I do it while making love. Although our break up was not related to sex issues, the thought that my consistent squirting during sex could affect my future relationship negatively bothers me. Here’s my question: should I tell my next boyfriend that I squirt?
Help,
Gillian
Dear Gillian,
I feel your pain, girl. Like you, I’m a frequent squirter. Although the men I slept with seemed to know about squirting enough to be comfortable with it, I still got asked whether I was peeing or squirting. Of course, the only way guys would know for sure is to smell or taste the liquid. Yes, squirting can come as a shock to most guys, but his shock (or annoyance) should not in any way make you feel like you’re not normal. Do not not be ashamed of your squirting. Instead, celebrate the fact that you are having an orgasm. Worry won’t make sex enjoyable, self-acceptance will. If you can accept the way you enjoy your orgasm, your next boyfriend should, too. If you still cannot make him realize that squirting is a GOOD thing, it’s time for a session with a sex counselor .
Hope this helps,
Jessica
