If you hit the sheets with a naked guy thinking of social rules and propriety, and start making out with an uneasiness that you cannot shake (even while he’s on top of you and you’re moaning like you mean it), you might be sabotaging your potential to really give in to the pleasures of sex. Where do we get these inhibitions? Sexual hang-ups may have developed while you were growing up, or during college when you made a habit of averting your gaze and closing your ears to anything remotely sexual.
If you grew up believing sexual myths that well-meaning adults tell you to prevent you from being too promiscuous too early, you might still be carrying those beliefs and ideas about ‘proper’ sexual behavior.
Growing up in a conservative, religious society myself, it took a while before I really learned to embrace my sexuality. You see, being too uptight will ultimate result in poor bedroom performance and hesitation to really grow with your partner sexually. Just let go. Read this provocative excerpt of an article from Dr. Marty Klein on the topic of sexual openness…
A twenty-buck gadget that can make women climax, a little bottle of stuff that makes body parts more slippery, fur handcuffs or naughty dice or edible panties—how can any adult pretend that their opposition to these things is anything more than fear, fear, or fear?
Blaming God or “our community” or “the children” is cowardice (and it gives God a bad name, besides). Even though they make my life miserable, I would shake the hand of any person who admitted “I’m against sex toys or erotica because they make me feel frightened, inadequate, lonely, or perverted.”
Telling the truth is always the first step toward freedom.
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