Today’s post is all about passion and its role in improving your sex life. Many couples experience sexual downtime, and sometimes this relationship phenomenon could span years. Some people call it mid-life crisis, some say it’s a ‘natural’ event that happens to staid old couples who have seen it all and done it all. Whatever you call it, it means the same… the spark is gone and the urge to make love is low. Dr. Buehler sums it up nicely:
When couples who have been married or committed for a long time think about passionate sex, they generally are referring back to the earliest moments of intimacy in their relationship. They don’t know why sex felt better then, they just know why that it doesn’t feel as good any more. Read more.
Here are some suggestions for rekindling the flame of your sex life:
1. Let your inhibitions drop.
Forget about nagging issues such as age or physical issues (weight, wrinkles, etc.). More importantly, quit dwelling on your inhibitions (sex should be like this, we shouldn’t do this etc.). Kiss your partner like it’s the first time and just make passionate love. Moan if you want and dirty talk if it helps increase your arousal level.
2. Don’t let the pressure to orgasm during sex get to you.
The more you think of climax, the more difficult it will be for you to reach it. Instead of worrying whether you’re going to have an orgasm or not, focus on pleasure and on what feels good for both of you. Once you learn to really let go and just enjoy the ride, reaching climax becomes easier.
