Jessie Whitfield contributed an awesome piece at emandlo, and it’s about anal sex on him. Towards the end of the article, something caught my attention. She might have mentioned it in passing but it definitely made me smile.
After about an hour our anal endeavor was over and the search for his prostate gland was called off. He didn’t orgasm and he was strangely quiet as we lay there. It occurred to me that maybe I was asking too much. Maybe expecting amazing orgasms from just the push of a button was unrealistic. Maybe we should have thought of the plug as a side dish rather than the main course. Maybe P-spot stimulation just doesn’t work for some guys, just like some ladies hate having their G-spot touched… read more
I remember my first G Spot moment. It happened during sex with a boyfriend and while he was fingering me. The poor guy must have really felt guilty when I gave this huge yelp and started making faces like he’s hurting me. Come to think of it, the feeling of a G Spot rubbing can be perceived as painful initially, if you’re not used to it. Then when you learn to break that perception and recognize it for what it is, the hurt will turn to pleasure.
The funny part was the way he quickly withdrew his hands like he’s caught stealing from a cookie jar. Eyes wide, he asked “did that hurt”… of course, my unexpected reply was “no, no. Do it again!”.
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I think the angling can really make a difference. If it’s a quarter of a centimeter off, then it can stimulate it in a way that may be more shocking than pleasurable. When done just right though, you’re so right, you ask them to do it again!
That’s actually fairly similar to the concepts of BDSM. Some people think it’s all about beating each other up and what not, but really it touches more on that same principal of pain turning into pleasure, such as the clamp of a nipple.
I think that with a man’s prostate, it is very similar to a woman’s G spot in the way that the variations of pressure and the angling can make or break how fulfilling it is. Maybe they also have to be coddled and in a passionate mindset, just as we do.