Here’s an interesting article from Isabella on Sex Talk, which discusses a man’s worry about hurting his partner when she asks him to bite her clitoris. Here’s the advice:
“my advice would be to lick and suck that bad boy until it’s totally erect, and then have a go at biting her clit while it’s sheathed. You already know you’ve not been biting as hard as she’d like, so start with taking it straight to the next level. And if that’s not hard enough, go one step more until you get there — I reckon you’ll know when you’ve done it, as most women are keen to say something along the lines of “Don’t stop!” when a man gets it right. If, however, this still isn’t enough for her and she’s still bitching about it, pull the clitoral hood back and bite — but start the increments over again from soft to hard, as things will be far more sensitive this time round.”
The clitoral hood (the skin covering the clitoris) does have a lot to do with female pleasure, and unfortunately, the thickness of this part of the female anatomy varies from woman to woman. In some cases, the clitoral hood is too thick for the woman to feel much pleasure during cunnilingus.
If you think you have a thick clitoral hood and would love to feel more clitoral sensation during sex, you should heed advice first before you get a labiaplasty (surgery done for various medical reasons, including improved exposure of the clitoris to stimulation). There’s nothing wrong with wanting surgery, of course, but don’t avail of it before you tried to ask your partner to expose your clitoris the natural way (peeling back to expose the pink skin underneath). I personally wouldn’t risk surgery until after I’ve done everything to make him learn how to please me while he’s down there (including biting).
He can only do this when the clitoris is erect and raring to be let out, so the first thing to do is to ask your partner to perform cunnilingus until the clitoris can easily be unsheathed. However, the phrase “biting hard” can be very relative. Your definition of nibbling could be different from his. The trick is to explain to him how sensitive that pink skin is, and how he should only bite hard when it’s sheathed.
