Although we are not disregarding the biological reasons why women cannot have orgasms (such as the medicines they are taking and the underlying diseases they may have), there’s no mistaking that women cannot orgasm because they have a lot of other things on their minds during sex.
Body Image
Do you turn off the lights when you have sex? Why? There are women who don’t feel comfortable with their bodies on a normal day, and this gets acutely obvious during sex. The surprising thing is the inferiority comes from what their partners think. Poor mental image of your own physique could be causing anorgasmia. Instead of focusing on pleasure, nagging thoughts that he could be disliking what he’s seeing crop up to prevent orgasm completely.
Relationship Problems
Although there are things that can be put aside easily during sex (like laundry lists, chores and schedules), most women will feel bitter and used when their partners make love to them in anger. The best sex is make up sex, as they say, and I agree.
Women must feel emotionally connected with her man to really let herself go. If you don’t feel like making love, and you know it’s because of an emotional disturbance between you and your partner, the best thing you can do is to deal with the problem first before having sex again. Women who have had bad experiences during sex may shun intimacy completely and prefer to keep their pleasures private. Sex in anger (the real deal, not the fantasy) leads to progressive negative conditioning that can make women associate resentment and threats with sexual intimacy.
Orgasm in women is not always spontaneous, probably because we rarely get direct clitoral stimulation during sex, but there is no doubt that having a positive or stable mindset during sex will get us there faster.
