I found an interesting article about how a young lady can’t climax during sex. She says she’s been doing it with her boyfriend for a year but no go. She’s frustrated that she can’t even climax via oral sex.
The sexperts at Scarleteen replied…
Women’s sexual partners being centered on their own pleasure, uninformed about women’s bodies and sexuality, hasty or rushed in the sex that’s happening, or focusing most on sexual activities which are least pleasurable for women. Relationship problems or conflicts or a lack of sexual chemistry with partners. Women themselves being uninformed or misinformed about their own bodies, about sexuality, about pleasure, which would include unrealistic expectations about desire, sex and pleasure…. read more here
This part of the advice struck me most. In particular, the bit about men (and women) not knowing much about how a woman’s body operates is right. Being misinformed about sex in general and harboring an “ideal sex” model inside our brains could sometimes prevent us from reaching climax.
It’s not a secret that most of us get tips (instruction, even) from pornography, which don’t really inform how female orgasm happens. The factors that lead to female orgasm are more complex than we know, and they differ from woman to woman. The most we can do is learn about our personal sexual responses by being alert to the signs of orgasm and by asking our partners to do the same.
